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From somewhere in the internet on love & relationships:

You can't promise to love someone for life, because you either do or you don't. But speaking from experience, sometimes it's not the idea of marriage. It's who you're involved with. He may say he loves you & wants to be with you forever. But until you meet that one person who you don't want to risk losing & you back it up with action, those are just words. I told every guy I ever dated that I had zero interest in marriage. Until I fell in love with the man who I wanted to truly hold onto in love for life. When you're passionately in love, you want to seal the deal & start your lives together. You want to take it to that ultimate level of commitment. If someone doesn't feel the way you do, you have a choice to make. And you're not entitled to resent him or her if minds don't change, and you've wasted years hoping it would.

Posted by Glenda Wed Nov 24, 2010 10:36am PST
In the end, it doesn't really matter what his thinking is-he has you exactly the way he wants you, so there is no reason for him to get married. I am married; I didn't marry until I was 27 (I am now 53), and I dated many different men before I met my husband and married him. I was engaged twice before him; I wasn't ready and both men pushed me into the engagements, so of course thay didn't last. I will tell you this for a fact-it doesn't take very long for a man (or a woman) to decide if you are the one they want to marry; the hard cold truth is this-this man will most likely never willingly marry you, and if you somehow push him into marriage neither of you will really be happy and you will never hear the end of it.

Nine years is way too long to wait-you deserve a man who wants you and has no problem letting you know it; a man who will marry you and show you off proudly to the world as his wife. Don't "settle" for what this man is giving you-you deserve so much more! GO OUT AND GET IT, GIRL!!!!