What was it?

So is it considered a "relationship" then? If not, then I'm back to the NBSB club. Haha.

Well, we knew and acknowledged we like each other, and care about each other. And we were exclusive and committed to each other and in our relationship while we were together.

But: there is no love, no sex, and no assurance as to the future.
First, during the whole time we were in Vietnam, I never told him that I love him, and he never told me he loves me either. Second, the whole no-sex set-up was of course conjured up by me. He's got nothing to lose, and I've got something. I have self control, and he always wants it anyway. Third, we knew about each other's plans. I was there when he was applying for jobs. I was there when he was processing his documents. I was there when he accepted the job offer, and he told me everything about it. And he knew about my plans too. Not really "plans" plans, since I have no real plans to speak of. But the alternatives of what I might do when I get back - get togethers with family and friends, job offers, etc. He knew all about them. So we have our own plans - separate, independent, individual plans.

So what did we have? Companionship for the time being that we both needed each other. Nothing permanent, but it was necessary. And important to both of us. So yeah, maybe I'm just delaying the end of it all.