Thursday, January 28, 2016

To my ex-boyfriend, my ex-fiance, the one I left behind

You probably wouldn't understand, wouldn't understand why I was tired of you, of us, of myself when I'm with you, and it's my fault, honestly.  I did not communicate well with you.  I did not try.  I got tired, lazy, let it go so often, lost myself, became annoyed at myself, and now blaming you.

I am sorry for everything.  I gave all of myself to you, which was so wrong.  I thought that's how relationships should be - giving, sacrificing.  I gave all of me to you which I was not able to do with my first relationship.  I thought that will make you stay, and want me, and not leave me. I thought it will make our relationship better, last a lot longer than the first one I had.

I was wrong.  I should have been myself and not pretended to be anyone else.  You often complained I was not that open to you, like it seemed that I was not comfortable with you.  I really was not comfortable with you, and I'm sorry.

I wish I had the courage to break up with you earlier, or take things slow, or be myself more so we could decide if we are really compatible.  I am sorry it reached this point, that I have to back down on our engagement.

I was afraid.  I was afraid I'd be making a mistake, that I will not find a kind, generous man like you who will love til death, I was afraid to be alone and face other people who will ask why.  I was afraid I didn't do enough, that every time I miss you means I love you and I should get back to you.  I was afraid to face the consequences and the entire healing process after a break-up.

I have nothing else to say. I cared for you, I care for you, and I am sorry.  You did nothing wrong, and that's the worst part.  I have no reasonable explanation to myself and to other people, why I decided to be single again.

I am sorry for everything.  You deserve so much better, someone more honest with her feelings.




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